Good Guys Finish Last...

Okay, so as per usual, when I finish a long hard day at school, I totally veg out and watch a series of my favorite guilty pleasure reality shows...Yes, I, Steph, am a reality TV show junkie...And I am NOT going back to rehab!

But anyways, I was watching Teen Mom 2, and I was watching Leah's story. She's a girl who went out with a guy, got knocked up by said guy, but because she was hung up on a douche bag, she didn't want to be with Good Guy, so she dumps Good Guy and goes for Douche Bag, so when things went sour with Douche Bag and tried to make things work with Good Guy, who has been mending his heart for a year since she broke it and doesn't wanna get hurt again but is considering letting her cheating, trifling ass back in again. Then, on Millionaire Matchmaker, this one broad named Robin, who is the millionaire, was told to pick between the hot guy she has nothing in common with(mentally, physically, or financially) and was only interested in her money, or the more practical guy, who was way into her and good looking, mature, accommodating and accepting of her OBSESSION with Hello Kitty and pink. And guess which one she picked? The hot, dumb self-proclaimed asshole.



So, America, it got me thinking...What the hell is wrong with us girls? Like why do we do things like this that end up hurting everyone, including our own selves? Okay, this is why we all end up lonely, bitter and depressed at several points in our lives. We do it to ourselves sometimes. We choose these guys that we KNOW is not good for us, we don't guard our hearts from them, at all, knowing that if we trust them just a little, we will be damned to heck, we fall in love, ignoring the warning from our brain that says "Hey, dumb ass! Stop hanging around this guy, he's no good! He will only leave you heart broken!' And all the guys that are super good for us we just never even give a second glance.

Let me further break it down...

Becky is in complete and total LOVE with Jace, a rocker bad boy type with a forbidden past and a murky future. He likes her, but he's too manly to say so. He doesn't have time for real emotions, he never says what he really feels and would rather play around with everyone's emotions than for anyone to figure his own out. But yet, even though she knows there is no future with this dude, she still believes that somehow she developed a divine gift to change a person that maybe Jace will change. And so, the cycle begins, with Jace whispering sweet nothings in her ear and Becky believes them, waiting for him to change, Jace betrays her by staying out all night, or coming home smelling like her best friend's perfume, Jace apologizes and Becky takes him back. And the cycle continues...

Why? Why do we do this to ourselves? What is so attractive about a man that treats you like shit? What is so charming about a guy who insults you without so much as a thought? What is so alluring about guy who you will never in a million years have a future with? And if you do have a future with him, will never be a happy one? Why? Why does this happen? Because of imaginary spark that we feel? The adrenaline rushing to our heads when we see them? That pounding in our ears, heart and head when he kisses us? Even our whole body tells us its not right, but we mistake that for passion and love.

Here is what I think: If you are not ready to make a semi informed decision about who you enter into relationships with, or really get to know someone as a friend before diving into the deep and dark and unknown depths of a relationship, then I think you need to just chill and figure out what it is you really want. And when you do figure it out, then, be as honest as you can with everyone who becomes romantically involved with you. Because if you don't, then you're just hurting a lot of people that you don't really need to hurt in order to be happy.

Since when is being alone such a friggin curse?

Wise Words from Steph